Afia Ohemeng
Every step in a relationship takes a lot of effort from both parties. Changes can make anything better or worse. The one thing that makes change easier is the level of preparedness about it.
For most couples, moving in together is a huge decision which requires many values they may or may not have. For some, moving in is extremely important in deciding the direction of the relationship. Saving money on rent is another huge factor that drives couples to move in together
Amazingly, there is no “right time” to move in together. Rather, careful deliberation and communication will slowly help in making the right decision.
In as much as there is no right time, moving in together extremely early in a relationship can increase the stress of that relationship. Waiting for about a year is strongly advised.
Not sure if you and bae should move in together? Then keep reading, today’s article is here to make the decision easier for you and your partner.
5 Ultimate Signs That You’re Ready To Move In Together.
1. You Are Comfortable With Each Other’s Peculiar Habits.
Newsflash: You know that cute snort your girlfriend makes when she laughs? Well, when you live together, that may become her “disgusting snort”.
The most mundane things may rock your world the moment you have to share close quarters with another person EVERYDAY.
Make an effort to learn some of the living habits of your aspiring co-tenant and also compare ot to your level of comparing.
One way if finding out in a similar environment is to invite your partner for a sleepover, a weekend getaway or even a monthly home takeover. Following and noticing what your partner does is usually a good indicator of their routine.
2. BILLS, BILLS, BILLS.
Can you pay my bills
Can you pay my telephone bills
Can you pay my automo-bills
If you did then maybe we could chill
I don’t think you do
So, you and me are through
-Destiny’s Child
Moving in together is not the miracle solution for any relationship which is already strained due to dishonesty about finances.
For many couples who stay together , money is a major stress factor. Talking about who pays what and when after you have moved in together is too late. Ensure that you and your partner come clean to each other about your finances and your spending habits
3. You’re A Wonderful Problem-Solving Team
Does it always end in tears when you and your boyfriend need to find an eatery or a location for date night ? When you have to decide on something pressing, how quickly does it get attended to? Staying together means you will have to make choices about unplanned future issues. Being a great listener and problem solver is such an essential soft skill.
4. You Have A Life Without Your Partner.
Everyone knows that one couple that does every single thing together! They go everywhere together , share the same friends, never seen alone and probably breathe in each other’s carbon dioxide. A fully co-dependent couple is a huge disaster waiting to boil over since moving in together can make everything worse.
Try to keep your own past times/ hobbies and other interests. Not only does it keep you from feeling trapped, it also provides more things to talk about and experience later. Maintain old beneficial friendships, have lunch dates or go for a spa day.
5. Create Quality Time
I know I told you to build your own little life but … making time for each other to rant or simply be yourselves helps in strengthening your bond. Your relationship may not be all rosy now still it doesn’t have to smell like a pile of cow dung. That being said, it’s also time to make time for each other to keep your bond strong. Being selfish creates a loss of interest in the relationship and may push you to seek enjoyment somewhere else.
